I am here to talk about a new going crisis with my Grandmom. I didn't send her a present for Grandparents Day. First I'd like to say that my Mom found this information on Grandparents Day on the internet.
According to the National Grandparents Day Council, the holiday is intended to make children aware of "the strength, information and guidance older people can offer." In addition, it is meant to give grandparents an opportunity to show love for their children’s children. Although many see it as a day to give gifts to grandparents, it is appropriate for grandparents to give gifts to grandchildren on Grandparents Day, especially if they are gifts that honor family traditions.
My Mom put that in there for me.
My mom found information that the grandparents are supposed to give the child presents as well as the child gives the Grandmom presents. But I wasn't mad at Grandmom for not getting me a Grandparents Day present. But she was mad at me. She called me out on facebook and all of my cousins and brothers and sisters. I did not call her out for not getting us all presents. And I certainly did not call her out for the time she didn't come to my birthday party after she said she would. Or the time she said she was coming out here to visit and she didn't. There's lots of other times that I can't really recall but there are lots more things. There is one in particular thing that one of her friends said, that she said that she should forget my birthday now in return for forgetting Grandparents Day. I dont' even think Grandparents Day is even really a real holiday. We didn't even do anything for Grandparents Day except, I don't know, talked about it at the lunch table. And I'm grateful that she is my Grandmom and she cares about us, but a lot of the time she feels that she deserves more than she should. I could say things about a bunch of stuff, but I don't. I try to be polite. I try not to embarrass people. That would be very embarrassing. But it did embarrass me a little. I don't care what people think but it still embarrassed me because I don't even think it is a holiday. Is it really important? Because whenever we come to visit, we say hi, give hugs, and all different stuff to show our love. Why do we need Grandparents Day. We treat them special anyway. I'm not doing this just for me, but I am doing this for my brothers and sisters and cousins because it was them she called out too and they don't have blogs.
Connor, I was not "calling you out" about Grandparents Day. I do not want or expect any gifts. I would only like to hear from you guys once in awhile so I know you are thinking of me. The mention of grandparents giving the gifts is something I didn't know. I am VERY SORRY that I upset you guys. It won't happen again. I have never made you any promises that I didn't keep. If I say I will try to come to a party and I end up not being able to for whatever reason, it is not breaking a promise. Because I didn't say "I promise" to be there.
ReplyDeleteI love you & your brothers & sisters VERY much. Please never forget that. As always, Grandmom~}
Yes, you didn't physically say "I promise" but you said you would come and you didn't more than one time. So technically you didn't say you promised but you still didn't do what you said. You told me you would bring Great Grandmom to Reagan's baptism and you didn't too. Of course you are not going to do it again because we won't let you. You are always making everyone upset by the things you say. And keep at note that I am not just standing up for me. I am standing up for my cousins and my brothers and sisters too. When we visited out to my cousins and we were at my cousins house everyone was wondering who should call Grandmom, who should call Grandmom, trying to pick the right person and say the right thing just to make you come see us. It made me feel nervous and it made me feel angry that we couldn't just have you say OH YEAH, I WILL COME OVER. But no we have to argue with Daddy and try to get Daddy to be the one to call and invite you over. And it makes my brothers and sisters sad because they love you and they are sad that now we are not going to talk to you anymore. But I think it is for the best because it will only cause more sadness. From Connor.
ReplyDeleteGrandparents day was invented to give people a warm fuzzy feeling, What are you people doing to it? There is NO real Grandparents day, therefore there is NO issue. Why would anyone need to be MORE connected than we already are? With Facebook,blogs, Myspace, and Twitter, I beg you, just ASSUME that I love and care for you, and stop asking for validation every 5 minutes!
ReplyDeleteThe thing is, Connor and Mr. Conniff, and I say this at the risk of everyone's ire once again, even with all that supposed connection, i.e. Facebook, Twitter, etc., I do not hear from any of you guys. And that is my point. As I said, Connor, I only want to hear from you once in awhile. I am not asking for validation every 5 minutes, not even every 5 weeks or months. Only once in a while. And that does not happen. I have to email your mother after awhile to find out how you liked a gift or a card I sent. If I don't take that initiative, then I don't know how you guys felt about anything. That was my only reason for posting what I did on Facebook. I don't think that is asking too much. You guys are very far away and I can't just hop a plane to come see you. But I am your grandmother and it would be nice if you, Connor, could listen to my explanation of things and your Mom and Dad would listen and understand instead of judging me. And, yes, it's sad, but if your parents insist that I can not communicate with you & your brothers & sisters, then for now, it will have to be so. Things that happened many years ago, whether my fault or not, are things that are water all under the bridge and should be left there for the sake of you guys. In any case, there is nothing more I can do or say, since it is all up to your parents. I hope you are able to read this, in case it is our last communication. I love you & all the other kids too. Please always remember that. Grandmom~}
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